Building Relationships & Interacting with Guests
Manaakitanga
In Te Reo Māori, the concept of Manaakitanga expresses how communities care about each other’s wellbeing, nurture relationships, and engage with one another. We can embody this concept into how we build relationships with our guests by raising everyone’s mana, focusing on respect, kindness and support.
Take a moment to observe guests as they are approaching the meeting area. With guests that are smiling, looking around and chatting amongst themselves, the instructor may be able to feed off their upbeat vibe and build on that through a quick, lively introduction. With guests that are running late to meet the group, trying to put gloves and their helmet on as they are approaching or looking concerned with their new environment, the instructor may need to address components of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs before asking anything else of them and continuing the lesson.
Once physically with the group, it is natural for the instructor to offer their name and begin asking questions to get to know the guests. When asking questions we need to be aware that people may have a different opinion of acceptable questions to ask in social scenarios. Avoid invasive questions as some guests might not be comfortable to reveal themselves to the instructor or group. To begin with, start with simple questions that provide an environment for dialogue, such as: “Where are you from?” or “Do you have any other hobbies and interests?”
Now that conversation has begun, this is where we can strengthen and build the relationship or it can plateau. What happens next will be decided by the way the instructor listens to and responds to the answers that guests give.
Hot Tip
The Importance of Listening
This ability to listen to guests is where the door to effective communication and building a relationship further opens. It’s a simple idea and is one that is often underestimated. By definition, to listen is: to give one’s attention to a sound, take notice of and act on what someone says, respond to advice or a request, make an effort to hear something, be alert and ready to hear something.
In order to listen, we must be present and in the moment. It requires us to be attentive, focused and exerting effort. In some circumstances it requires a response. It can be all too easy to let these responses fade away, only to have to ask the same question again or even worse let the answer slip by with no acknowledgement.
Quite simply, if you aren’t going to listen to the response then why ask a question?
In the early stages of the relationship it’s easy to discover superficial facts about guests with simple questions; however, this is only scratching the surface. Consider how to ensure the relationship is sustained and continues to develop throughout the lesson. This is where it’s key to remember that, for our guests, it may not be all about snowboarding. In their opinion, there may be a whole lot more to life than just snowboarding.
In many cases the strength of a relationship is amplified through the act of sharing. In a snowboard lesson, guests have entered our world to learn about our passion. It’s likely that once they have settled into the lesson and are feeling more comfortable they will begin to open up and reveal more about themselves. Why not reach out and learn more about their world and their passions? By choosing to explore more of their world, we can take a genuine interest in their life.
Example
“What do you do for a living?”
“How did you get involved with that?”
“What do you enjoy the most about your line of work?"
Delving deeper:
“You mentioned travelling through South America. When I get to visit, what’s the one thing I should do over there?”
“What’s the best time of year to do this?”